I just attended a friend's wedding last night and it made me think so much through about love.
Firstly I would like to share a story base on my friend's relationship.
I would like to maybe have a wake up call for some girls out there.
So lets give a name to the ex couple. The girl's name shall be Twinkle and the guy's name shall be Kane.
So, the couple got to know each other through mutual friends. & slowly they got closer and they dated.
During the dating period, Twinkle could tell that Kane was never a romantic guy. But slowly he did improve by giving her goodbye kisses when he dropped her off at her place. But time passed and it has almost been 2 months of dating and he had not even cuddle, hug or even stayed over together. Twinkle was disappointed and asked Kane, what were they... Kane said that they were in a relationship but it's funny how he treated his relationship like just a toy. Only when he was bored or needed someone, he would message her. She would wait for hours for his text but he would not reply or even text. She got quite annoyed and decided to call it off. How can a two months relationship have no holding hands, no dating or nothing. Except for clubbing nights and him sending her home, or sometimes he would just leave half way and said he has meeting. Meeting at 2am. Whao right girls.
So my girlfriend was really sad and she kept texting me that she had to end this. And when they ended she found out that his ex girlfriend was actually still living with him.
Lets skip a few parts ok? If not this post is gonna be very long.
So he asked her back, blahblah and said he would make it right. He claim he cut off his ex girlfriend off but Twinkle didnt know he was actually still talking, texting and even meeting till their 4th-5th month. I told Twinkle to leave him. Because the worst ever for a guy to have is to have excess baggage. If he really did love Twinkle, he would have ended with his ex girlfriend once and for all.
Many months passed and slowly Kane didn't talk to his ex girlfriend anymore. But he did many disappointing things behind her back, like flirting with other girls and lying every single time. Every single time she said she would leave, she didn't. She decided to give him a chance. A chance for him to change, that was the reason why she held on since the beginning when she knew he was still seeing his ex girlfriend. Twinkle thought it was worth the pain and hurt that Kane was giving her. She thought she could change him.
So, there were no changes, Kane was still a liar and hid many things behind Twinke's back. She ran away from him but he always got his ways to ask her back. & sadly, Twinkle is a very soft hearted little girl. So she tends to get bullied by Kane.
She kept going back to him but he just keeps disappointing her over and over again. & in the relationship, I could tell that Twinkle was giving her all to him, she loved him with all her heart and would do anything to make him happy. But for Kane's side of his love. He only goes to Twinkle whenever he feels lonely or bored. I could tell Kane is a very lonely man, especially at night. So he just needs her there to accompany him but he never did love her.
He doesn't hug her, pamper her or show any love in return. Even when Twinkle was sick, He was in the club and only came back home at 5am. Twinkle complained to me, she felt so sick, hurt and lonely but he was never there for her. In-fact, He was never once there for her. Kane is a very selfish self centered person, who only believes that love has to be only showered onto him. He only believed in a one way love and the saddest thing is that he thinks he is actually nice to Twinkle. I know Twinkle's ex-es , they were ten times sweeter than Kane. I do not know what is Kane thinking. Seriously.
Twinkle knew that she could never see a future with him. A guy who has so many girls around him, A guy who always lies and keeps secrets away from her, A guy who is never gentle with her, A guy who doesn't care about her feelings. & Twinkle could even tell me, she doesn't really care as long as he could shower her with love. BUT THE FACT IS KANE DOESNT EVEN SHOWER HER WITH ANY LOVE. Just disappointments.
Twinkle told me that she had enough. A man like that doesnt deserve a girl like Twinkle. Twinkle my friend has left him for good and she knew that she would be happier without him & I am very happy for her as well.
If you're a guy and you're not ready, please do not hold on and drag your relationship. Let her go.
If you're reading this now and you have a girlfriend. Tell her how much you love her, how much she means to you. Small little things like this would be enough for a girl. It would make her smile.
Lets spread the love everyone. :)
PS: Twinkle is doing fine and I know the right one will come to her very soon as she has many lovely friends around her. She deserves someone who treats her the same, someone who would love her and would never do anything to hurt her.